After trying and trying, is your marriage still on the brinks of separation? No matter how bad things may seem, there is always hope!
Three Ways to Save Your Marriage
Helping to create a better, more loving environment and tighter bond between you and your significant other.
1. Handle arguments differently
Every marriage and relationship has arguments, but it’s how you weather those storms that could either stamp or break your relationship. When emotions are high, both of you are yelling and shouting to get your point across. But really, what does that solve? No one is truly listening or understanding especially when you’re feeling verbally assaulted and compelled to defend yourself.
Even I sometimes have to bite my tongue so that I don’t say something I would later regret. Having a naturally calm personality has admittedly made it easier for me to think before I speak than it is for some people. But that shouldn’t stop anyone from trying. Your arguments should never turn physical this can cause irreparable damage. Both parties should ALWAYS keep their hands to themselves at all times and if you feel threatened in any way call 9-1-1.
2. Turn gossip and bashing into praise
No one is perfect. When the guys get together and the conversation turns to complaining about “what their wives do,” or wife bashing in general, refuse to participate. The same rules apply to women and their husbands. It shows that you respect and value your relationship. Instead, when a “gripe session” gets going, make it a point to start sharing some of her/his good qualities. Usually, this alone will steer the conversation into a positive direction and help your friends to also praise their husbands/wives — which in turn helps them to respect and appreciate them more too.
3. Become Unpredictable
After a few months or years, most couples get into a comfortable zone where they always do or say the same things. Same dinner / movie dates, same sexual routine, positions and behaviors. Bring your relationship back to life. Show your partner that you are still fun to be around. Demonstrate to them that you can still be very exciting to hang out with. They say if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, then you will keep getting what you’ve been getting. Words of wisdom~
Read more ways to save your marriage at: The Love Chamber